Traditions are changing

Isn’t it wonderful how traditions are changing? Women no longer have to rely on men for empowerment or recognition, as women are now breadwinners as are men. In my grandparents time it was a norm for women to stay at home and manage the family while the men went out to work. Duties were split heavily and both people knew their roles. Now the roles seem to be blurred and shared a lot more – there is a greater deal of equality, which in my opinion, is for the better.

I know hear many of my friends telling me how they can’t wait to get on their career ladder and marriage and children will be coming much later in their life. This mentality is VERY different to how it used to be as the paradigm has shifted and women are now just as much business-minded as are men. It has meant, however, that men and women (in a lot of situations) are sharing more stress as they both work, they both manage the home and the both have to bring up their children. This consequently could mean that children are spending less time with their parents and more time with a nanny, so whether this is a great transformation in society for the children involved is unknown.

All that is entirely true is that times have changed and will only continue to change. Women and men are swapping roles and to be honest, it’s very hard to keep up. Expectations fluctuate but all that remains true, and true to me as a person, is I will always remain myself – Miss Gemma Leigh Smith and continue to be the best person I can be!

A Messed Up Generation

Communicating can be difficult at times when technology and distance hold a strain on that line, when you have no internet or that person is miles apart. We’ve all heard that saying:

Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

But does it? Does not seeing that person for a long period of time make you get used to spending your time without them? It’s a hard one to figure out. Most of the time it depends on the strength of the bond that you have with that person, and how you stay in contact throughout the hard times.

I read something not so long ago about how times have changed so much from the – what we would consider as – ‘older days’, where it is a lot easier to just give up and move on rather than figure things out. The options available to us and our generation as a whole are overwhelming. We have endless opportunities open to us, and the digitisation of the new media has facilitated these processes by miles. Is it a good thing that we have become a nature full of resignation and acceptance? Rather than standing up for what we truly want and believe in we just nod our heads and say okay. What happened to fighting for what you love?

Communication is the key to all problems. If you talk and you can be open with someone, you will generally find that the understanding between you is so transparent there is no room for confusion and mis-communication. You need to both be reading on the same page, and that’s when speaking your mind is – by far – such a brilliant thing. When you know where you stand with someone you feel free, free in any way that may be. You can move on, you can continue your day and that issue isn’t the first or last thing on your mind.

As a girl, we are mad for over-analysing things. We like to look deep and really depict the reasons behind ‘why’ something has happened rather than just accepting that it has. Guys on the other hand, stereotypically, are quite literal. A girl when she is upset may tell a guy “Go away, leave me alone!” and a guy will say okay “Okay no problem.” But the girl doesn’t really want that, she just wants the emotional attention. Then before we know it we are in a complete mess. A complete messed up situation with broken communication.

Rather than accept that there is a dent in something, make it better. Improve it. Then before we know, it we will be a generation full of joy, happiness, laughter and understanding: all the things that make us feel alive inside, and of course, complete.